Does wrestling/fighting has to be always erotic?

I've been on her for two years or so and setting limits concerning erotic content (and extreme violence) has been a challenge - especially in the beginning. First of all, you get less matches if you insist on these limits but more importantly, there are (a few) people who cross these limits anyway. Of course I can block them but it still feels bad whenever it happens. After all this time I found a couple of great wrestlers I have matches with regularly but it's still a challenge to get a match with someone new on the site. I think a tag like non-erotic might help with finding a good match.

I believe the neutral baseline in roleplay should be no sex. If someone wants full sexual penetration to be part of the interaction, the responsibility is on them to state that clearly, both in their profile and to their partner. For me, there is an important distinction between eroticism and sexual intercourse, and I try to keep that line visible. Wrestling and domination, whether gay or straight, can naturally carry an erotic charge, and I have no problem with partners describing their feelings or acknowledging when they find a match hot. That is fine with me. What I am not interested in are scenarios that involve sexual penetration as a stake. I respect those who do enjoy that, and I have no objection to consenting adults exploring it, but it is not something I will participate in.

Just like in real life, consent is the most important thing. People who lay out their boundaries prior to a session should be listened to, and if you can't meet those boundaries, you shouldn't engage with that person. Visa versa, if you chat first and lay out a boundary, and the other person crosses it, you're fully within your right to walk away, mute, or block that person.

I'm not into sex. I get off on the struggle, wrestling, the elements of dominance and submission. Straight or gay doesn't matter to me, there's enough intimacy in one grappler dominating another, squeezing them until they're defeated. But it can be hard reaching out to people, because when I see all the kinks in someone's character profile, are those simply things they're into, or things they require in a match?

I do kinda wish there were a "No Sex Required" tag, or something that would clearly indicate a character who is perfectly fine with just doing matches that don't end up in sex...but that can also just be learned by talking to them. So, before you start any match, make sure they're willing to listen, make sure you listen to them as well, and have fun.

No it defintely does not, it seems that most people on here treat sex as a priority which limits any real valuable actions in a fight. If they treat it like a dating site it's time to leave.

I'm the rare straight dude here but I get why so many feel the need for erotic action. It's important to lay out the type of match u want before being surprised. I don't get as many matches but II have found folks to be straight with me, so to speak. I wrestled many gays real and only once did I have a uncomfortable situation and even that wasn't awful.

I talk for myself. I enter here "to come". To do certain stuff that I may not do RL, or do once a year or so. Fantasies heavily sex oriented, BDSM, domination and well... whatever kink I have. Since time is precious, and I do not spend much here, I enter for what I came for. So, honestly, it's very likely I will reject a sole fight with no erotic/sex/kink stuff. Be honest, be clear, and you will find people alike in here. Don't take personal if many here want erotic and sex, and reject you, everyone enter here for their own interests. There will be some here who think like you, so it's great you opened this topic to find them.

I’ve always wrestled to wrestle and very often it’s completely, “clean”. If it takes an erotic twist, I’d often go with the flow. The important thing is to know where he and you draw the lines. A lot of guys get turned on, I do, the question is whether that’s the aim or the biproduct and then what if anything you do about it. There’s room for everyone, I think.

If you don't want erotic elements then you need to state that BEFORE engaging with an opponent. Can't blame someone for crossing a line they didn't know existed. IMHO

I do make it clear before a match and when I do that, it is very hard to find a match. People here mostly are looking for the erotic stuff

I will admit, as a writer who will include erotic or not (but mostly included), my first reaction was to ask if you read guys' profiles and if stakes/erotic are there, swipe left. But as I thought about it more, perhaps there should be a tag for "nonerotic" to help you search for kindred wrestlers.

yeah there must be. Also it is super hard to find a match when I mention non erotic

You guys make an accurate observation. I have been on here for 6 years and during that time , there are more guys looking for stakes all the time, I do matches either way .... with or without stakes,
In real life all I ever needed to shoot a load was rolling with some hot stud, I know you both will find lots of guys who will mirror your ideas
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it is super hard to find someone who loves wrestling alone and are looking for non erotic type of wrestling

I have been using this site for a while now and been seeing almost all people are simply into the erotic stuff. I myself love pro wrestling and don't really like it to be erotic. I am not saying people shouldn't have their own fun but damn this site is just filled with people who wants horny stuff rather than wrestling. It makes me feel a bit left out here. Are there guys who love pro wrestling action more? HMU guys

Right, most of people here but still you can find some people into just the wrestling action. Just stay it up front and be clear in your profile.

I do state it upfront and it is very difficult to find a match wirh similar interests

Well the erotic element is sort of the default here. If you don't want erotic state that upfront. IMHO

I do, as you said it is the default here as people are looking for it most times

Hi , I am totally in agreement with you and as a site that promotes wrestling it’s hard when so many accounts have so much emphasis on erotic action , I want everyone to be able to express themselves in the manner they choose , you really need a separate room set up for erotic , stuff also it’s disturbing that their are also so many in to extreme violence and death mentioned in their profile .
I think these things need to be sorted out when guys discuss things before a match , don’t feel isolated
and stick to want you feel comfortable with I am sure there are a lot of other guys out there that think like us .